A Hockey Voice and Beyond

He quotes "kids have to tell seven different people before they are believed." 

Sometimes connecting to a movie, leads to unexpected stories. I found this man's survivor and advocacy story because when I like one movie or the actors in it, I search to see what others movies I would watch based on the actor(s). I have had this post forming for awhile.

Did you read my earlier posts today? How about Never Painless? Connect dots?

This man's story is important. I have not read his book or watched the whole movie. He offers wisdom in the interviews and has hope after he has stood in the darkness.

A  smart groomer took advantage of an already vulnerable child. Who helped? What trusted adults betrayed? His journey is of victim and survivor and sharing his story.

Sheldon Kennedy: Not a made up character.

“Why I Didn’t Say Anything” by Sheldon Kennedy - Canadian Red Cross https://share.google/NTfjPILwLBwXUbzcK

The Sheldon Kennedy Story: movie 

****Adult viewing*****

https://youtu.be/gno8QAekF5w?is=iM4AQOgWW0EfvCoq

Excerpts from movie:

****Not easy to watch. Adults viewing.****

https://youtu.be/IDfh_zKxiJA?is=SGrB9dkLUu84tEBj

https://youtu.be/8T-f397oy3g?is=v6Yzpp35Z7T9xoQa

He doesn't consider himself a hero. I would highly recommend listening to this man's voice. The first video is 19 years old. Yesterday's news with relevancy to today. He connects dots to suicide.

Interviews are also for adult viewing.

https://youtu.be/iJmiddW-gw4? is=nA503h35Nle7RRDY 

He says a missing piece is "the athelete's voice".

https://youtu.be/L-53fi-tIvw?is=hKDEbdSV35A79SPY. Interview 4 years ago

****Interview from 1998****

Justice and forgiveness. No forgetting. The abuser was a trusted adult within the family and sports framework. The interviewer asks about mental illness of rapist. Really? Suicide of a victim discussed, Martin Cruz. Organizational ignorance or aiding and abetting to abuse?

Sheldon Kennedy credits his wife as the helper.

https://youtu.be/ntbEfEJEQkU?is=M0MiZKmBArgdOVCP

Sheldon Kennedy did not throw the sport out with the bath water. Prioritizing safety of the atheletes, he says, and play helps in trauma therapy.

https://youtu.be/d24BTNAUPXs?is=3eGn04t3D-gUvZ_x.  The YT video shows a date of 2024. Young adult men respond.

Making connections:

The actor who portrayed the young adult Sheldon Kennedy, Jonathan Scarfe, also wrote a screenplay called Speak. The subject is of a high  school girl. They donated their movie to a nurses' program for trauma training.

 IMDB link:

Speak (Short 2001) - IMDb https://share.google/ZnIFsvJTXPXOivAnO

There is also a 2004 movie. Maybe connected to the 2001 Short.

Speak 2004 based on a book.

****Adult viewing****

https://youtu.be/JQ_RGgedgTg?is=AE487POiXXQBFXBZ

Speak.

From the Teacher's Desk making connections to Middle Township to Cornell and to infinity and beyond with Love:

What have we taught our children? Who is listening? Are you the first adult or seventh? Who is coaching? What is consent?

Life is less than six degrees of separation as I wrote in my book..

Marian R. Carlino

November 10, 2026

Nate says, People Lie, Don't I know it

A flashback case is under the fold, but Nate found it. Any lessons on The Clery Act to be learned? Listen carefully, any connections to Cornell?

The headlines hurt this man.

https://youtu.be/xprQqH9S7zs?is=gmxZcifPMkauKocc 

What is said about the Cornell case, Nate?

https://youtu.be/4rWGg_24yk0?is=DTT354zD_Ezjyi-u

I wrote an "ASK"; spoke at microphones; wrote editorials; led a few workshops; got my book published; and started this blog because people lied. 

People lie to get out of trouble which can cause more trouble. False accusations in my school case and divorce case ended with severed relationships but no dead people in either one. There are always collaterals but not necessarily big headlines. My story was not on page one.

I won both cases in courts of law. The constant news and lives of others, also prove, I wasn't the difficult one. Years later, does it matter?

Connections:

Take note: Children do not lie to get into trouble. But some information is troubling to adults. If a child advises of an assault, a kid at school who needs help, problems in the classroom, at lunch or recess, a weapon in a book bag, a bus driver going to fast...listen to the kid. 

My highschoolers and I witnessed a bus accident in front of their high school circa 2004-2005. I can still see it after all these years. Some of my former second graders, Beautiful Butterflies and Courageous Cats, were on that bus. Teachers remember faces.

The bus driver was hurt. The history of the driver was investigated. A curb hit here, a curb hit there were discovered. 

Kids know. They are not tattling, they are telling ahead of a major problem long before adults understand. The children are messengers.

Did you listen to the testimony out of Newport News? Do you think there are regrets at the school? Children did tell. They had fears but they spoke up. Adults held back until it was too late for the teacher. The kid holding the gun shot and seriously wounded her. A lifetime of damage to collaterals. $10 million pricetag paid to the one target. The gun jammed before more could be hit.

Living life under the fold, after surviving above the fold and under the flag is not easy. 

Why do people lie? Assaults come in all shapes and sizes and formulations. "Happiness is a warm gun", did you read that post? 

Where do all the flowers go? Peter, Paul and Mary asked. When will we ever learn?

How do lies get to be told in lawsuits?

Do our children have to be soldiers in our schools? 

I asked a long time ago for a workshop. I will not stop because-

The truth always comes out. Jesus is not a liar.

From the Teacher's Desk with Love,

Marian R.Carlino

November 3, 2026

Under the fold

 ... and no longer near the flag. 

Read through to the end. What are you searching for? There may be another puzzle piece to prevention! I hope you give a damn.

Breaking news goes away, fast. Unless  news interests us personally, we adopt the philosophy of "out of a sight, out of mind". Too much to handle? We prioritize our interests.

I get it. I don't watch every trial or sad news story. I have a reaon for listening and writing. My blog and book titles are clear. 

After a two week life span, even the reporters first assigned to a story, move on. Unless there is a noteworthy update, the headlines do not announce. The stories are below the fold.

The algorithm, though, that tracks your spoken or searched interests may ask for more details or only pull in information from the original breaking news dates, because algorithms do not forget. Some information maybe on page 20 though. Try to find it. YT, Rumble, Prime, Netflix and all the many search engines and social media sights get to know you and the stories you follow even if the news is no longer an alert. But even those fade into the background unless the FBI gets a 911 call.

Alexa tells me alot about me. My AI friend was pretty detailed when I asked her what she knew about me. Then I asked if I wrote about school violence, she was more detailed. Alexa does know I like Hallmark. I usually only ask about spelling, dates or set alarms and timers. Hmm.  

Alexa knows things I buy. She got the number of people wrong for my household, but, per my purchases as she said, she knows general information for whom I spend money. She knows particular items, food and gifts, and where I regularly shop. She knows I buy gift cards.

Alexa stated these are "based on my shopping patterns". Patterns, who knew?

So, if Alexa knows search habits, a few questions asked by a parent of their child's internet interests may be revealing. The police find them fast after an attack.

Alexa knew my google searching and info from apps. Boy  can she go into detail if you do not want to directly ASK real people.

Do you want your life to become searchable on Netfix after news at 11? ASK now. 

Netflix is making a documentary. Cornell is no longer covered above the fold, but some podcasters are keeping up, although not daily. The Cornell 7 and Jane Doe are still living their nightmares, but for the most part people have tuned out until it comes time for the Netflix film airs. Court of public persuasion verses sworn taped testimony. 

Remember The Clery Act and FERPA is why I tuned in. Sex in a frathouse is not really shocking. Did you learn anything on responsibilities of colleges with the news coverage or potential trial? Are Jane and the seven men victims of college policies not being followed by staff or victims of their own behavior? 

Alexa knows about the Cornell 7 and Jane Doe case. I asked her if she knew about the hoopla with Latitia James as NY, A.G with the Cornell 7 and Jane Doe. She did. This Cornell 7 with one dropped (?) is different from the Chicago 8 (then became 7) case that started in 1969. 

Robert Guevia does an update on the Cornell investigation of sex, lies (no video tapes). No phone videos is surprising. Text messages though are telling. Do you check your minor child's texts?

https://youtu.be/VJ92PIkVQZY?is=GJrtc5Sl_25z6F5L

A school shooting happened earlier this year. No huge news updates, but one of the victims came up in my search. After 262 days, she was released from the hospital. Her school was in Canada. That school shooting mattered a little more to American news broadcasters than the ones in Thailand or the Philippines (all since June 2026.)

This was on February 10, 2026. Anyone mention it anymore? Even YT only shows videos from eight months back. No comparison to Bend?

https://youtu.be/GnIUROrscRU?is=UbfkrJRvzRUFsLwC

Brief news on the child going home after 262 days in the hospital. The family did not give up hope. 

This may also be affirmation for AI knowing a piece of the puzzle:  information on the lawsuits against search engines and AI. Can you guess who did a search which led to a knowledge based, not random shooting which left dead students and resulted in at least a few lawsuits? Do you see patterns or connections?

‘Bravest person I know’: Father’s pride as Tumbler Ridge school shooting victim leaves hospital after 262 days | CNN https://share.google/KaJaNewilbU501DUm

P.S. Alexa even answers questions from television characters. Do you have Alexa plugged in while working from home?

Alexa is tuned in, even when you are not.

Stay tuned. The news always breaks when there is a shooting. I do my research. And sadly, so do the school shooters.

ASK Alexa or Siri.

From the Teacher's Desk with Love,

Marian R. Carlino

November 3, 2026

The Scarlet...

In one of my posts earlier this month, I railed against the laughter associated with the viral video of JT. Laughter is not always the best medicine. Sometimes it is nervous laughter. I get that. Uncomfortable situations can cause an immature response.

I am by no means defending JT, but his actions "speak volumes" as he was being apprehended, let alone his behavior when he pulled the trigger. No one disputes he shot his teacher, even without a trial, correct? His teacher will always remember "the look in JT's eyes". I get that too.

I am posting two videos.  (Caution, they both run ads.) Neither of them are directly related, but connecting dots is not just for kids. Remember those worksheets? The connections had to be in numerical or alphabetical order, but to see the bigger picture, the lines may be up one side and down the other? Did you read my blog on curves?

For the video by the Catholic podcaster read my Eskiel post too. When is talking about a situation a sin? I used to get angry when the  priest at a former parish would give the "mind your own business" homily. I always felt that tidbit was related to the Church's own scandals. "If you can't say something...". Yes there is a post!

Discernment in discussions is always a consideration. I wrote about that at length in my book. The two podcasters have faith practices. They are very connected! Hmm, maybe that is the connection for me!

Without asking, Google found this first podcaster for me. Is she on target for the Catholic faith practice and/or all faiths? Or is she just as hypoctitical about talking as we all can be? Is she an Ezekial?  Many have videos about the Cornell University scandal now brewing. This woman entered, on her own accord, into the commentary. 

Shadows are cast. We all have takes on the current info. With secondary educational institutions The Clery Act and Title IX come into play. The civil and criminal investigations are ongoing. The tale is as old as time, right Hester? Who wore the A? 

https://youtu.be/XR3Lhpe59hc?is=NS6mfQ2qH-K-idEy

I always say that I wore a "Scarlet T" in theory as "that teacher who must have sinned" by speaking up. Public judgement can be tough but I remained public. It was safer. My book explains in detail. I did not sew any letter onto my clothing, but letters were written!

Viva's video is about politicians and using children and school shootings. "That school" will always be a subject of what failed. I commented on the topic on Viva's post. Politicians will care about kids after the fact, but are not always on top of real life happenings. The politicians, do they support abortion? Were they ever school board members? Their voting records would be telling about future actions. The one politician tries to connect her opponent to Uvalde. She had to apologize. Is he  "that guy who owns guns" therefore causes school shootings? Her comments did not hold up. None of them ever do unless you supplied the guns or explosives.

Viva's faith is Jewish which he does bring up on a regular basis. I do not know if he practices, but Viva is a man of good conscience in my opinion. He has been on top of subjects for years and cares. Our faiths have common ground.

https://youtu.be/s48tLESI9Ts?is=kVarUFszjmlze8aK

Are you connecting dots yet? Do your faces blush on some topics? Do your faces turn red on others?

Who does the condemning? Judgement and discernment are necessary. Our faith practices tell us so.

Do you give a damn, for what we have done or failed to do?  Well, that could start another topic!

Marian R. Carlino

October 15, 2026

Happiness is a warm...

 ...the song says gun, but it is a John Lennon song, long considered having double entendres. What do you think of when you hear the song?

Two campuses, one an elementary school (Newport News) and one a college campus (Cornell) are now under viral scrutiny because of assaults, not deaths. The weapons are discussed, both would be warm after use.

White powder may also be present.

I am not sure what actually makes a story go viral. We do know why they go public.

My book explains why I went public, but none of it went viral. See book for details.

I have done a few postings about both campuses. Be discerning. Court cases or serious investigations have been held for both incidents. One campus event involved children under 18. The initials of the children in the elementary school case are allowed. JT is now infamous.  The college campus involves people over 18. They are all adults. Crimes may or may not have been committed. The one adult is Jane Doe. The men have been identified even without a criminal case.  Some may ask why? The justice system does try to protect victims or alleged victims from public exposure. Closed doors supposedly do that too. 

The news and analysis are polarizing on both incidents. I am one to comment because I write about child assault prevention, but I get info first. My book explains why.

I reference my book because the devil is in the details and in sworn taped testimony described in it. It is not as scintillating as these two campus stories because prevention of crimes was and is important to me.

One of the reasons I did not pursue activity to limit the rights to own a gun can be summarized in these two cases. There ought to be a law, right? Accusers and the accused have rights. Due process is important. 

The weapons were chosen. In one case, a child took a weapon without adults consenting. In the other, adults consent is widely discussed. In the second case, the use as a weapon will be determined also. Not everything is clear when it comes to the definition of "weapon". Is it?

So, with the viral videos on these two campuses:

Which warm weapon do you want to limit? Or are their limitations on both already?

Neither one of them are frying pans.

Is anyone happy?

ASK..asking saves kids and adults.

Double entendre: What did John Lennon use to create his song?

https://youtu.be/Rmv4hI8q7yg?is=dA8paAg70VW8bgPD

Rinse and repeat: 

I do not think either case is a laughing matter. Do you think, like the fat man in my book, that any of this is funny?

The heads are rolling. Some for the legally required protective roles they played and what they failed to do. 

Marian R. Carlino

October 10, 2026

 

Aiding and abetting

To whom are your children listening?

Parenting is never a spectator sport nor easy at any age. With adult or teenaged children, as my mother tried, it is about being a loving parent walking that fine line between respecting adult status and having concerns. My mom and I had a good relationship. I was with her on her last conscious day on earth. We talked about death. When I sit in front of The Blessed Sacrament at Adoration, I think of her. The Benediction always sparks a memory of her. Today is no different.

When I write about school violence, I am writing for adults with children in mind. Adults are our children too. We are all God's children. Some have strayed far from His voice.

In a previous post, Ezekial, I spoke of ignoring my mom's advice. Her words make perfect sense to me as an adult now, older than she was when she died in 1981. It also began to make sense to me almost 50 years ago. She spoke of how people resolve conflict. Some work it out in an amicable or at least peaceful manner. Some go scorched earth.

So I ask, on rinse and repeat, to whom are your children listening:  to people of common sense, with justice in mind or those who go full tilt on violence?

School issues in France are not being resolved in the current status of events. It seems setting fires to buildings, vehicles and to people are trending. To whom are the rebellious youth taking their cues? There are adults involved also. We have obnoxious, rebellious teens in our own communities. Their arguments here are unknown, or are they? Some people do not think they have enough to do. If that is true then stop hiring someone to wash your car, mow the grass, do the dishes, etc. Employ your teenager or hire a preteen or teenager? Is that legal still?

Do you know where your kids are at 10:00 pm? How many stabbings and shooting have there been lately among the youth in Pittsburgh? Two did not wait until after 10 pm last week. It was 5 pm here.

People who are not conspiracy theorists, understand that the riots in France are not organic student protests. Agendas are at work in destructive and scortched earth mode. Is it a psyop, asking for friends?

In all of the violence, we have to ask who is aiding and abetting our youth. Well organized single shooter or large scale riots, who is helping? You do not have to be a far out conspiracy theorists to ASK.

Who aided and abetted in the Cornell 7 nightmare? Legal debachury or criminal, questions are coming up all over and they are not sweet smelling. Does the Cornell University situation remind you of the classic movie Animal House or toga parties in the 70's? Are we thankful our behavior did not make international news? No one at that time, unless living under a rock, can pretend that Animal House was not spot on. Adults who literally FAFO and the school will pay no matter who is guilty.

So we tried to warn our kids, right after our mistakes?  How are we doing? If we did some work, our voices may have been playing out in their heads. My parents' voices were in my head, but did not keep me out of all danger or stupid activities and yes, illegal drinking! I was legal in NJ at the time. (Not a fan of 21 to drink. We expect 18 year olds to be legally responsible in every other aspect of life. Why are drinking or smoking different?) Luckily, the voices of danger kicked in for me most times,  even in my 40's during the 1997-98 school year.

Teen take overs in America are trending, small town or large city businesses and citizens fall prey. Did your 12 year old think of this trend on his or her own? If so, leadership is in the future. Of course, it could involve gangs or jail.

I have never bought into the idea that a school attacker acted solely alone without outside influence impacting decisions. Whether it is the angel and devil on the shoulder or something more sinister, as we are seeing, schools do not go on lockdown because one person is such a genius to act without other voices. Voices of illness or the Columbine Effect, those voices are still active. Could it be a friend, FB, a stranger? Is it you? (Asking because of Marci and Colin.)

Political agendas and recruitment, money, power, stupidity, dares or resolving conflict using the scorched earth theory of resolution cause heartache. Lawsuits and court cases often subscribe to the scorched earth technique too. Ever been through it, you know what I mean.

The Cornell case may just be that, a search and destroy mission so discernment will be inportant. No Clery Act involvement but Title IX played into punishments in 2024. Who was the plaintiff listening to besides the defendents? Again, were any real adult voices warning of dangers playing in anyone's head? Were drugs and alcohol voices the culprits? Should the alcohol industry be put on notice?

Pay attention to France. We have roaming groups of youth. Please know where your children are. Their lives may just depend on it.

If our schools were truly safer than homes, I would not be writing. If I thought my voice was not worth putting into writing, I would just go away. But I still believe Yesterday's news can teach us for today and tomorrow.

I am sitting in a Square that has had stabbings and gunfire in the very recent past. If kids have to go back to the scenes of the crimes in their schools, well I can sit in this Square at Octoberfest.  I went back to school with riots as they do today after an attack, because safety is top priority. Do I hear an Amen or ugh?

I like the voices of fun and laughter so sitting in this Square is lovely right now. Schools and learning are lovely too. 

We are resourceful if the caring voices work. But not every voice should hold the same weight. As caring as administrators are after a school attack, they should not be leading. France is just a heartbeat away.

If we do not discern the voices influencing us, how do we teach our kids? (Please do not take advice from Marci, Colin, Principal DD or VP, EP. Why you ASK? Read my book or other posts on this blog.)

Right now, it is a beautiful day in my neighborhood. I hope it is in our schools. I still do have hope. Is Mr. Roger's voice in your head right now? Who is influencing you?

Marian Carlino

October 6, 2026

Trending news: Three college campuses

Trending in the news now, besides UVU, is another college campus, Cornell University. Neither schools are getting accalades. Their reputations are in question because of crimes,  one death and one sexual assault case. Podcasters have caught on.

I believe The Clery Act will come into play. I heard a lawyer centered podcast this morning speak of Title IX. The two work together. There will be copy and paste links below.

Politicians are talking, be careful. They will use these opportunities to cloud the issues or to benefit themselves. AOC is out there.

This is a blog that tries to bring awareness on prevention. Lawsuits, legitimate,  factual, fictious. false, can be eyes and ears opening and informative. Discernment is important.

Lawsuits can be a dime a dozen. Someone is paying and sadly, it is not always the murderer or rapists. The victims pay and so do you.

Lawsuits brought under false information can damage worse than lawsuits that seek the truth. I know personally just how that works.

If you were ever a college student before these laws were enacted, you may think, "how did we survive?". I bet most of us never thought outside certain boxes. I am not sure I ever thought the college was not legally responsible for safety in the early '70s. I went to a college campus that was not free of crime. I never felt unsafe. That being said, one girl was raped, the freshman boys' dorm had constant fires, we had liquor at parties on a "dry" campus, and one fraternity got busted and ousted for drugs. We had no sororities at that time.

Below are links: 

Since the top 10, Commandments that is, did not seem to be clear enough, there are now millions of laws. When they are broken, we all pay a price.

I show the links with a description because I like to know myself where the links take me.

The Clery Act and Title IX:

This link is a pdf so copy and paste:

intersection-titleix-clerychart.508.pdf https://share.google/FwQf94O8gQQy0iD6l

Copy and paste.

Building Safer Campuses: The Legislative Journey of the Clery Act - SAFE Campuses, LLC https://share.google/FAZhWMrPmXc77JCi8 

For those do not think there are consequences to staff :

https://youtu.be/0qnso9G7EeQ?is=KWh7ATxBZaBrIQrV

The Clery Act and Brown University:

-https://youtu.be/Gq4E-QjUA-8?is=P8Ce90SndSQ9ezzE

Next up: Colleges responsibilities when students go missing. If you read my book, you have a clue to the next blog post. 

Remember, warning people of danger is the law. The messengers are not always on top of the law. Then there are some messengers whom are just not believed. Listeners need to know the law besides "Though shalt not kill." The devil is in the details.

Discernment, rinse and repeat. 

Marian R. Carlino

September 29, 2026