The Wife Speaks about Bend

Blood, sweat and tears...

https://youtu.be/pD4wJc9KUBQ?is=UdXKbfPWbyNwTp71

We have heard the father speak. 

Have you heard his wife speak?

The one interviewer, the male of the trio, ASKs what it is like for her? Kudos to the one who thought to ask her.

Keep this family in prayer. The stress on them  is real. Do you think she has trouble sleeping?

Listen between the lines. See between the lines. What do you hear and see?

This father has spoken before. The news calls it an exclusive. Not sure of that marketing. 

One of the comments in the YT video wants to hear from the teacher who fought the shooter.  In a court of law, from a televised courtroom, I would too. Sworn testimony is needed.

There was a kid with a gun over there. Who, where, how-- we kind of know. But why is still a lingering ASK.

The father wants to start a non profit. Do we need another one? I bet the shooter's fragile mental health was already known.

My advice, "There is no place like home" at a time like this. Speak out but focus on your family. Life will bring trouble even to those who protect. Celebrity status will not help because it is a double edged sword. Do not let the children fall through the cracks while on the speaker cicuit.

Put on the Armor of God. St. Michael defend them as their family faces new battles. The crowd is fickle. Bullets protected but victim's and heroes mental health are vulnerable.

What do police do after a legal shooting? Most do not go on the circuit. Rescue and recovery are tough on everyone.

Two roles are not exclusive. Victim and hero.

Did he read my post about Spiderman? Or is that God making a connection?

What did the Master Carpenter teach?

From the Teacher's Desk with concern for this family;

Marian R. Carlino

November 10, 2026

Trust betrayed. What is Wisdom?

...what you may need to know when the weapon is not a warm gun or frying pan.

Google is like the Action News van, it brings the news into your neighborhood, at least through YT.

I was scrolling through when a post caught my eye. I decided to stop and listen. The victim is now 21 and is still not named. 

The offender was indicted by a Grand Jury, and has pled guilty. Formal sentencing is in January 2027. How many years for this to take place? Money cost?  Who paid her attorney? Did NJEA cover the costs? Did you read my book?

Three posts from Law and Crime a YT lawyer based podcast.

January 2025

https://youtu.be/Ph_wuNEkq4Q?is=dkPW7Xg53WpEgX14

July 2025

https://youtu.be/HIsPw_NkCto?is=IZgQznphUjE7v3m3

October 2026: 7 days ago discusses a plea deal. I do think good questions are discussed. Listen to the commentary.

https://youtu.be/NT0x-jMrBDs?is=n_wAvSM794AvDv9m

Was the Action News van there? October 2026

Former South Jersey teacher accused of having child with student pleads guilty - 6abc Philadelphia https://share.google/Ezx1U1HfFJpxxBexP

In the third video, the most recent, and the first video to which I listened,  I heard "Cape May County in New Jersey" and "split the baby". Both caught my ear.

Asking why she had the children in her custody? This was a link in one of the articles: Foster Care.  (The news is also full of these crimes plus children killed in foster care. Bell curve extreme rings.)

State of New Jersey | Department of Children and Families | Home https://share.google/mFG9Wr3V3a9V8CPzv

Many years ago, but well after Columbine, I did one workshop in Middle Township in Cape May County, NJ. That school district of teachers got a shout out in my book, not for good. Who is coaching the kids?

I think NJCAP went into that school district also. Not all teachers want NJCAP programs in their classrooms. Any reasons why that bell curve on the extremes would ring? Why did I write a chapter on Advocacy? Why did I quit NJCAP in 2008? Why would a parent or guardian not sign participation requests? Yes, the programs are developmentally appropriate. Parents can refuse permission. That choice is ok, but ASK. Parents get the training first.

Do you know what a pocketbook is?

I heard a Biblical reference of "split the baby" in that third Law and Crime YT from October 2026. The lawyer, whose lips were awfully red, brought up the passage, and not just once. Solomon, the Judge, in that Scripture passage was drawing out the criminal. I am posting the Biblical link for clarity. Will the true, loving mother, present herself?

Does this hold up to the Wisdom of Solomon?

Solomon was wise at one time.

https://youtu.be/Tg3qbINGaJg?is=9KROMAWuGXn5W-4v

As in the case discussed, the story is not unique and happens more often than you may think. If  you are reading my posts, you do think! False accusations happen too. That is why investigations need to be completed. Why do I write?

Read the comments but remember, I do not have comnents on this blog. If you know something, comment to the correct authorities. Think they do not listen, read my book. Read the chapter about Ping first.

You may have to put your concerns in writing. Make sure your concerns are spoken or written such that they will hold up in court. BUT, 

You are not an investigator, (unless you are), and reasonsble suspicion is good. Experts do the investigating so pay attention. If you know, and do not report, legal issues can ensue. Patterns are visible.

I did hear of this case early on. I am NJ girl who taught in southern NJ; Google knows that about me too even though I live in Mr.Roger's Neighborhood now. 

These clips are older. I hope you have questions. If not, I will post a few. The comment sections in the videos and news documents are about Monday morning water cooler talk.

Copy and paste:

A Trust Betrayed Behind Closed Doors - The Allegations Against Laura Caron — Unsealed Evidence https://share.google/fI2JmaVdbRcSMerS3 

Middle Township teacher who allegedly had child with student indicted by grand jury - 6abc Philadelphia https://share.google/bUKGAKuo6sOl3qN0J

Prosecutor's document:

20250619-KQQT8TKGdWOGOE71.pdf https://share.google/FAQHLICg72e58OeEc

Remember when Barbara Walters swooned over such a relationship? Celebrity status?  Were you disgusted, sad or motivated to curb the con?

Why do boys need knowledge on sexual assault prevention?

What adults knew? Did the siblings talk much earlier?

Who listened to the siblings early on, anyone?

Did the boy protect his siblings by succumbing? It is not unusual for multiple children to be victims? Or for one to take the abuse to protect the others.

Why is the now 21 year old defending his former teacher? Love is not always a many splendid thing. Children do get crushes on adults which can lead to victimization. Groomers are not just waiting for the bride.

What about the baby? It is not just alcohol in a spiked punch that hurts.

Why is this mother of the baby who was born in 2019 even thought to be given a lighter sentence because of that child? Are the Law and Crime lawyers spit balling?

These cases can teach us. 

What have you learned?

We teach children about fire prevention and active shooters? Why not sexual abuse?

Did you read why the violent behavior in my class and in the previous two years may have distracted us from noticing another child in dire need? There are real life examples.

Don't mistake genuine care and appropriate affection for abuse. But, if a well informed gut reaction sets a bug off in your bonnet, listen to the buzz. Sometimes a question is answered. Pray also

The Action News van could be driving through your neighborhood any day. News at 11 becomes a trial with many followers on YT. 

Pray for the  21 year old and his siblings and his child.

The teacher may be forgiven, but her actions should never be forgotten. It seems she has had due process. Life long monitoring until someone forgets.

There are hotlines, programs, and laws. Advocating for new laws is not necessarily the route to take. Take the road less traveled. Generally speaking, you will not live with regrets. Ask Ping.

Have you ever heard of Megan's Law? If not, ask Alexa to start your journey.

From the Teacher's Desk with more reality,

Marian R. Carlino

November 10, 2026