Hello Kitty---Intimidation

Intimidation...kindergarten style:
Everything I needed to learn I learned in kindergarten (continued)....with zero tolerance we have problems we know. But, threats at any level are a violation of another child's rights. Bullying laws are in place for a reason.
School districts get mocked about these things...but the parents of the child who threatened the other child who has rights( not to be threatened) are getting the upper hand. Where are the parents of the girl who was threatened? Let us hear their voices.
How ignorant for any parent to allow a child to bring any type of toy "gun" with them to kindergarten or any other educational setting. We have had children kill other children when they were in first grade with real guns brought from their homes. Children don't need to know about Newtown, but the adults do.
"Happiness is a toy gun..." and it can get an older person arrested because some can look just like the real thing. In this situation, another lawyer/advocate wants to make a name for himself. Drawings are looked at today too. Why? Because killers (with patterns of violence) always send out warning signs long before they kill.
Kids getting in trouble for playing "cops and robbers" at school was also mocked. Play "cops and robbers" at home. Some behaviors just are not appropriate at school. If a teacher organized a formal game of "cops and robbers" today or had "water gun" fights as a favorite teacher did years ago in my children's school, they would be fired.
If we knew anything about bullying, children use the tools of their young environment to threaten. A toy gun, fist, or verbal threat work just as well as the real thing because to a young victim, the threat is real. "I will hit you with my bookbag." is still a threat. "Give me your lunch or I will beat you up with my little fist" In high school, how many students had their pants taken from gym class? If anyone ever had a high school student, and you were paying attention, even identification badges were tools of high school "pranks" or antics. To some kids, it could have meant bullying instead.
I had a student recently put his arms stretched out across the back of the chairs of the two students who sat on either side of him. That is a also a gesture of intimidation. Stretch out at home on your own sofa. Play "cops and robbers" in your yard, war, or invaders or whatever. We know playing games like that are not out of the norm. But, they are not for school. Let us use a sense of decorum with our children in settings. We do not eat with our toes in public setting even if we have the dextarity to do so.
"Play out" your fantasies of killing others if necessary with imagination. Video games and movie geniuses are making a "killing" in that genre.
How many children "play out" healing others. Buy your child a "medical kit" and help them to heal people with their hands and tools of "the trade". Allow children to play house and be loving mommies and daddies. Children love to play house and comfort dolls. Just watch them if they are living in a loving home. Watch what they do if the house is not a loving house. We do remember our youth. That is why people can say, "it runs in families".
I remember a child running home from school to our house with a bloodied head because he was hit with a stone. It was during our tumultuous 60's in Plainfield. That stone left a memory for me..and how it impacted my little friend. In that mixed neighborhood, not many adults would have helped him because he was black. My mother helped him.
I learned alot in kindergarten. Remember "cooties". I remember the crowd on the steps of kindergarten children who arrived early, saying the other kids walking along had "cooties". You do know what "cooties" are don't you?
I have had students in my class who make negative comments to others everytime another student walks into the group. Now as an adult in charge, I am addressing it but it has gone on a long time so the patterns are set. Patterns can be hard to break. If the venue was a public school in New Jersey, every comment would have to be documented because commenting to others as they walk into a setting can be bullying. These students, as eighth graders, have gotten away with it for years.

It is better to raise a child then fix an adult. Raising children to become loving, responsible adults is not child's play.

Marian R. Carlino
January 20, 2013

So, Everthing I Needed to Learn, I Learned in Kindergarten

A twelve year old boy was found guilty of second degree murder this week. He was accused and found guilty of killing his father when the child was ten. The defense strategy failed. The prosecutors traced the child's history of violence back to kindergarten. According to a brief report in print media, during his kindergarten year, the boy stabbed a teacher with a pencil. The child was a victim himself of alcoholism during his pre-natal stage of life. Was he drinking or was the mother? The prosecutor's presented their case as the child knowing right from wrong so he was not mentally ill, although possibly abused. Abuse can be used in self defense cases but not planned murder.
Some would think that childhood events are developmental, kid's play, or not worth documenting. That is until an angry child, with access to anything that can be used as a weapon (in this case a gun), takes out vengeance. The defense argued that the child grew up in a violent and abusive environment where it was acceptable to kill people who are viewed as a threat.
The child evidently considered his father to be a threat. According to news reports on the trial, the child planned the murder and killed his father while the father slept on the couch. This child needed a child assault prevention program or at least someone to notice the warning signs.
Where did the child learn how to kill? Does it matter? The child was found guilty of second degree murder. What are we teaching our children? I know that we teach children on a regular basis that infants in the womb are to be killed if deemed a threat. As with the juveniles in a famous movie romantizing two violent gangs, this child has a social disease. And he caught it from the adults in his life.

Marian R. Carlino
January 14, 2013

We Can't if the Truth Be Told

Gabby Giffords like so many others are getting on the "gun control" bandwagon because she is literally a face that survived gun violence and is recovering. Her voice will be a significant and important voice because she is a survivor of an event that was planned by a vengeful man. Gun control laws did not work for her because a man used the gun illegally.
Healthcare worked for her though. People rooted for her survival by pulling out all the stops to save her life. Her strength and stamina are to be admired. The love and support of her husband, in a difficult time, is saintly. A lesser man would abandon her.
Ironically, she is pro-abortion and advocates against the life of the unborn who also wants to survive. How can that be? We know in America that a woman has the right to not only have sex with any consenting adult but then also has the right to kill the unborn child which may be created by that right to have sex.
It is a woman's right to choose death for her unborn child by the knife or suction machine. However, if she (or anyone else) chose to use a gun there may be a problem.
How many people struggle to survive daily, yet would not allow their unborn child to survive because of a disability that would need extra care or would need all the stops pulled out for them? Do women struggle with that decision after they realize the hypocrisy of their decisions? Ask them, the answer would be yes if the truth be told.
Gabby Giffords, like Brady before her, is for gun control and yet mass shootings happen as a regular occurrence. I know the death of young children in any mass shooting or homicide brings out empathy and sympathy for the children. Thankfully, that still shows we care. It is an abomination to most of us when a child dies by any means.
In mass shootings, the ones committing these crimes do not usually have legal access to the guns to begin with. People argue against the NRA (not a member) because it advocates for gun ownership (not killing). Yet, federal funding and donations are given freely to Planned Parenthood.
Planned Parenthood is about abortion which results in the death of an unborn child. Some abortions actually result in the death of children outside the womb. Statistics and sources demonstrate how Planned Parenthood makes their money. They make money from abortions (and are not licensed to perform mammograms which some falsely believe).
There will always be people who chose to kill. We have made it a right with abortion. Owning a gun is a right in America. But, no one has the right to kill anyone with that gun because they do not have the right to kill. Even the police and military are subject to investigation when they kill. How can killing the unborn not be investigated?
Clear the scales from your eyes. One can not advocate for the right to kill the unborn yet at the same time think that new gun laws will prevent more massacres. New gun laws will not prevent anything. New gun laws will only be able to be used to prosecute the shooter after he/she has committed the evil.
How can we as a civilized society make a distinction between the deaths of people killed in visible massacres and those killed in secret massacres? We can't if the truth be told.